How to Text a Guy to Keep Him Interested (Check out these simple 28 + examples)

The big question is; 

Do you know how to text a guy to keep him interested and avoid him ghosting you?

You can agree with me that;

Dating and texting go hand in hand these days. 

With everyone having access to a mobile device and the internet, the majority of us prefer communication through texting.

Thus, flirting through texting has become the norm and is a necessary skill to acquire if you want to win in the dating game.

Research has also shown that couples feel more connected with each other when their texting habits are similar.

 So, in this article, you will learn how to text a guy to keep him interested. And how to flirt with a guy in a way that makes you different and get him obsessed with you.  

These are some of the best tips on how to text a guy and keep him interested. So make sure to take some good notes.

Now, let’s get down to it!

1. Be Witty 

What you need to remember when you are texting a guy is that you need to be fun, flirty, and upbeat. 

It’s okay to have a rough day sometimes, that is very normal, all of us do. 

What you have to keep in mind is that this guy is new to you and you don’t want to send off the wrong vibes in your texts, especially at the beginning.

 Always keep it fun and positive, that is a golden rule on how to text a guy to keep him interested.

This energy will rub off on him and he will be excited to send a text back.

Show your fun personality with your words. Break the ice with inside jokes or something fun that happened when you first met.

A witty banter balances the heavier conversations like; what do you do? Where do you stay? Have you ever been married? Are you single? Do you have children?

Laughter is the best connector and research has found that men like women to be funny especially at the start of a relationship. 

So be witty, fun, and flirty when you are texting. 

2. Never, ever Text just “Hi”

The entire point of texting is to engage in conversation, so keep your goal in mind.

So when you text him just a “Hi” or “Hey What’s Up” it shows that you are just bored and have nothing important to say.

This is the laziest option when texting a guy you have a romantic interest in and it makes him think that you are not putting in any effort. 

Are you looking to make plans with him? Just catch up on the day? Have a more sincere conversation? 

Keep that goal in mind before you send out a text and take your time to craft a worthwhile conversation.

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3. Talk about common interests

Texting someone you like does not have to be about the relationship all the time.

 Mix things up a little sometimes and have fun. 

Share some funny jokes, random things that happen during the day that brings you joy, like a funny meme, sports memes, etc.

You could even take interest in things that he likes that you are not familiar with and let him tell you more.

This will give you more reasons to connect with him. It will also help keep him talking and he should be more interested in the conversations when talking about his favorite subjects. 

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4. Asking Him Fun Questions 

It is much easier to get a guy interested in you if you first take an interest in him.

So ask questions about him and combine this with statements.

You want to avoid questions like; hey, did you sleep well?

Instead, ask him fun things. Questions that help to get to know him on a deeper level like; so, you said you work as an accountant, is that your passion or did you want to venture into something else? Or what would you like to do more this year?

With these kinds of questions, you show any interest in him and make the conversation more fun. Choose questions that play right into his masculinity 

New relationships can be exciting and getting to know someone’s personality is a thrill so ask questions to get to know them better and learn about his personality.

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5. Keep Them Short and Sweet 

Texts are not emails!

They are designed to brief; if you are getting wordy when texting to him, consider switching to a phone call or face time.

Keep it short and simple. This is something that you want to apply to your messages no matter what platform you using.

If it’s not clear what you are trying to express to him over text, then he will immediately become confused.

The reason being is that men see texting as a way of exchanging information, short direct points, and facts.

Keeping texts short also creates the opportunity for back and forth conversation. 

If you have a lot to say break it up into more than a few lines and give him a chance to read and respond.

The best way is to follow how he texts you, mirror his texting style, and you are bound to not over text.

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6. Less is more 

Still, on the topic of keeping it simple, you need to stop the urge to send too many messages.

It is never a good idea to send a man a lot of messages unless you have been dating for a long time and he understands your personality well.

Even if he seems like he doesn’t mind at first, he may wake up one day and think;

“I think this is going too fast”“I think she likes me too much”

The other big problem of sending too many messages is that he might not be able to respond to them as quickly as you want him.

This leads to you having a one-way conversation that sends desperate vibes. 

Don’t do this! It makes you less mysterious.

Send at most one to two messages try to cover what you want to say in those two messages.

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7. Wait until he responds before texting again 

In the beginning, you are all excited and you have anxiety.

You still have doubts in your mind if he likes you or if you will make the wrong moves and scare him away or worse get ghosted.

I am here to tell you RELAX. Take a Deep Breath!

Yes, he might take longer to respond. This is normal for guys. So be patient!

Realize that your relationship is relatively new and you don’t know what is going on with him. 

He could be out with friends, asleep, his phone could be dead, in silence and it’s not as a death sentence. 

Bombarding him with text after text when he is not available or not responding is a Huge Turnoff!!

He will immediately brand you a crazy bitch (excuse my language) and might change his mind about getting to know you more.

If you send one text, do not text him again until you hear from him.

Most times 1 hour to 8 hours is understandable if he is busy working, traveling. Sometimes he can even take a whole day and he will, in most cases give you a valid excuse as to why he took so long.

But if he takes more than two days to text you back, then just know that he is NOT that Interested in You Sis!

 My advice is to just let that one Go!

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8. Have a Purpose with each Text conversation 

Have a purpose in mind when you are texting a guy that you are interested in.

Conversations need to lead to something significant, otherwise, you are wasting time.

Rambling and wanting to text just to text signifies insecurities. Don’t use texting as a clutch!

Talk to your girlfriends instead. This also helps you not to make mistakes and say things you will regret later.

You also save the guy time as you don’t know what he may be in the middle of when he receives your texts. 

The purpose is to use texts to flirt and remind each other that you are thinking of each other when away, not to text nonsense all day.

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9. Doesn’t Text like a Teen (too many Abbreviations, Emojis, Smileys)

Please don’t use too many strange abbreviations, Emojis and smiley are in your texts to a guy you are just getting to know. You Are Not A Teenager.

Wht R Y Doin’?

Avoid the excessive use of smileys, emojis in general. Most men are turned off by this and may think you are too childish.

You are a Grown-Ass Woman that is dating and so leave those strings of emojis and smiley’s alone. 

Yes there is a better way to use emojis in a conversation, and that is to articulate what you mean, or the intentions of your words which might have otherwise been misinterpreted within texts.

You can occasionally throughout a LOL but realize that you might give off the impression of being immature if you go overboard. 

The main thing is to match his moves.

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10. Avoid daily updates 

At the beginning of a new relationship, you might get excited and think about your new Boo too much.

So in the process, you might think that it is a grant idea to tell him every detail about your day and what a happening to your life is.

 Avoid this completely as it takes away from the fantasy and makes you look boring.

 The other thing is to tell him long-winded stories that don’t have a main point and circle all around, that he get confused as to what you wanted to say in the first place. 

Understand that men are extremely simple and problems arise when talking to women because they cannot process words too fast.

He is likely to respond rudely or not at all and that will make you feel worse.

Save the stories for the girls.

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11. Avoid boring topics and subjects that are emotionally heavy

Chatting and texting, in general, are supposed to be fun, especially when you are getting to know someone new.

So you want to avoid topics that are too sober and heavy emotionally at all times. 

These kinds of topics can lead to arguments and strong negative feelings.

Some of the topics that you need to avoid at all times are; politics, religion, your ex-boyfriend, your medical history.  

Stay away from these topics, even more on text messages because you can never know what the other party is truly thinking. They may be being polite even if they disagree and this can lead to misunderstandings.

Since you cannot understand what they mean over text, you may think that they are probably being sarcastic or vice versa.

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12. Don’t Complain 

When you get to know a guy and get talking more and more, doesn’t mean that you should use it as an opportunity to vent or complain about all your problems 

This is not the right platform to do that.

Yes, we all have bad days and wish to vent out to someone, but NOT to a guy, you are just getting to know.

If you are feeling terrible don’t send him any text until you feel better and can handle your emotions.

At least, when you are getting to know each other leave out the problems. In dating, you need to show your best side.

Don’t start to bother him with problems you are having at work. Don’t bitch about your kids, your baby daddy, your life, especially not over the phone or text. 

There is a fine line between talking to someone about what is bothering you and simply complaining. 

Yes if something tragic has happened, like Death, you can inform him and that’s that.

If you do this, men don’t know how to handle emotions and they will not respond well.

If something is bugging you and you want to talk about it, save it for a phone conversation or an in-person meeting, 

Better yet, talk about it over with your girlfriends. Otherwise, you will come off as a negative girl.

Later when you are in a relationship matures you will have plenty of time to talk about these things in person.

But for now, keep it fun over text and when you meet up. 

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13. Be a Challenge  

Yes, I know you have heard it many times, “men value what they have worked for.”

The masculine energy yearns to be in competition for something, fight and win. They live for the hunt.

 They are looking for the challenge of hunting, and when there is no effort involved, and it is too easy to get, it is not interesting. 

If you make it too easy for him, he will lose interest, get bored and he will stop chasing you. 

Mind you am NOT talking about playing games and being a Flake! No, don’t manipulate people and lie that is not cool!

I know you are now wondering. So do I become a challenge…?

Here are some of the ways to spice up your texting and challenge him;

Let him initiate 80% of the time (what I mean is for every two to three texts he initiates, you can initiate)

Don’t reply to all his messages within five seconds (match his moves, if he takes 10 minutes to reply then you take 20 minutes) 

Don’t text him the first thing when you wake up in the morning 

Don’t cancel your plans for him when he asks you out and you are already busy 

Get to know him before you go on a date with him or tell him too much about your life. 

Be a mystery and surprise him with your inner qualities and talents, don’t tell him everything over texts.

By making him talk at least a little bit about himself, he will have to invest more time and effort in you.

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14. Don’t Always Respond Immediately 

Still, on the point of being a challenge in texting a guy, you are interested in; DON’T respond to him messages in 5 seconds.

Yes, this needed a section of its own because women tend to get too excited when texting a guy they just met and have strong feelings for.

If you reply within 5 seconds each time he sends you a message, then you will come across as very easy and you will lose value in his eyes.

Remember, men enjoy the hunt, which makes them value you more.

Answer his messages when you have the time. You should be busy living your awesome life anyways if you are truly a high-value woman.

Don’t prioritize replying to him over your plans. 

If you respond too quickly, he will feel like you are always available, and that will take the challenge away.

Always pay attention to how quickly or slowly he responds to your texts. 

If he takes all day, then you certainly don’t need to reply to him within seconds, but if he responds fast you can also do the same. 

The rule of thumb is to wait as long as you want to before you respond.

 One hack is to put your phone across the room or on silence so you don’t hear that he has texted you. 

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15. Show him you have a life 

If you want to text a guy to keep him interested, let him know you are not always available.

This adds to the point of being mysterious and letting him chase.

 Men are attracted by women who have a life going on for themselves. 

If you make yourself too available you might turn him off. Show him that you are a busy lady with lots going on and he will want you even more 

If you have made plans with your girlfriends and he texts you while you are heading out, respond to his text but let him know you are busy at the moment that you will on it check later.

This way you are acknowledging his text but also letting him gently know you are not available. 

You can text him what you are doing or send a picture of you out and about doing fun activities like paintballing or car racing etc.

16. Makes Plans Together

Use your texts back and forth to plan out your next dates or the next time you are going to hang out.

But you have to remember to make their suggestions and let him take the lead. Men lead and women receive. So suggest fun ideas and give him ample time to think over and get back to you.

Let him know that you are looking forward to seeing him and this will help him make him look forward to seeing you too.

You can discuss what sort of dates you are interested in going on, and you should be able to plan some pleasant activities. 

17. Make an inside joke 

Jokes and laughter ensure that your text messages feel much more real and are an excellent way to start conversations.

 It can be a moment that you both shared or a situation where you both laughed a lot.

Give him a nickname and make an inside joke that only the two of you can understand.

The beautiful thing about this is that it creates a kind of us-against-the-world feeling that will automatically make him feel more connected to you.

18. “Never have I ever.”

It’s a great game to play when you are texting with a guy and one of the best flirty texts you can send for him.

 Does it sound familiar? Yes, it’s a game that is played when drinking, but now in text form. 

“Never have I ever swum naked before. “

If he replies that he has never done that before, it’s his turn.

This way of texting is more exciting, and you will learn the craziest stories about each other too.

So if you want to flirt with him through texting then this is an excellent way. 

19. Make Him Feel Special 

Show interest in him by asking him questions about himself.

Asking questions about his job, his family, his hobbies, or his day is a brilliant strategy in how to text a guy to keep him interested.

By showing your interest in his life, he is reassured that you like him and he will respond kindly.

Something as simple as a goodnight text can make a guy feel special. 

This kind of text also lets him know that you are thinking of him and you are being real which is crucial when you want to take the relationship to the next level. 

Asking about his day is a good conversation starter.

If he is having a great day you can share about yours or if he is having a bad day you can be the shoulder for him to cry on or at least vent.

 Pay attention to his response and ask more questions, but don’t start all conversations like this every day.

 It can get dull, remember you want to keep things fresh and interesting, not monotonous.

20. Compliment him 

One easy way to caress a man’s ego is to compliment him.

 It is one of the most efficient ways to make a guy fall in love with you over text.

One of the reasons compliments work so well is because men barely ever receive any daily.

Compliments are just a straightforward way to hit on a man, both in real life and over text.

Just remember to be genuine with your compliments, make sure that are true to him and his character and not just random compliments that sound fake.

21. Occasionally send a photo

Communication is not just verbal or written; you can also communicate with a photo now and then sent via text.

Don’t be shy and send a Selfie now and then, this puts you on top of his mind.

Send a photo of something you think he will enjoy and make him laugh at or a snapshot of the fun activity you are doing at the moment. 

Remember that it is Cute to send a picture of your beautiful self now and then, just don’t overdo it. Sending too many Selfies to him can come off as stuck-up or too self-involved. 

Ask for him to send some of his photos. Sharing photos is a great way to keep him engaged and can take the conversation to a new level. 

The other important thing to keep in mind is don’t to send him pictures that will embarrass you in the future, like nudes or inappropriate photos. 

Sending these kinds of pictures especially at the beginning can send the wrong signal. 

Adding to the fact that you don’t know each other well,( technically a stranger) you are not in control of the photos after you send them and you cannot know what he will do when he gets them. 

Send pictures of you looking cute and having fun! This is a fun and flirty way to build anticipation for your next few dates.

22. Don’t be afraid to flirt (when you are ready) 

If you have not been intimate with each other then you can skip this step.

If you are already having sex, a steamy text can reassure him that you enjoyed it and looking forward to next time. 

It’s fun to send him an exciting message once in a while. Sexing contributes to a good relationship. 

If you haven’t had sex but are thinking about it, texting can create a sense of eagerness that will make him crazy in a good way.

Don’t be shy and send a sexy text his way. Flirting over text is something that is going to keep him interested.

What you have to remember is don’t jump into sexy texts too soon, wait until you know the guy a bit, and intimacy has come up as a subject.

The other thing is never sent sexy texts if they make you uncomfortable.

23. Ask Him for Advice 

The reality of life is that men need women and women need men.

The problem comes with modern society and with feminism ideals that make women have this notion that been helped by a man = weakness. 

This is far from the truth. Men enjoy helping out and in a way to pamper a woman they care about.

Don’t be scared to ask for advice, letting him help you pay the bill, or fix things in the house for you.

He doesn’t like it when you never let him help you.

If you refuse his help you are rejecting his love because a man wants to fix things for you. 

That is why it is crucial to let him know from time to time that you need him. 

So ask him for advice over text now and then and give him the feeling he is needed. If you do this he will automatically like you a lot more. 

24. Give Him Space When Necessary  

There is such a thing as texting too much. Sending texts all day, all the time is a bit too much.

 You might be a huge fan of texting or what to communicate with all the time, which could lead you to send more text messages than this guy can handle. 

 Remember that he has a life away from you and he might be busy with work or he is generally too tired to text a lot when he gets home from work.

So try to hold back the too much texting because you don’t want him to feel like you are overbearing.

Watch out for his texting patterns and don’t try to make him text you all the time when he doesn’t want to.

25. Don’t spend months on end exchanging messages

Phones and face time are important to build a healthy relationship.

Don’t spend months exchanging messages with someone without seeing him in real life.

What you want to do is give him opportunities to ask you out from the start.

You can do this by giving him hints. Give him suggestions to go out or face to face options.

If he doesn’t understand these hints, don’t panic. You can always say something like; I think it’s a little impersonal to get to know each other over text, how about we just meet up.

Try to avoid exchanging messages with each other for months on end. 

The other thing is that texting is not always the best communication channel for the situation. 

Phone calls and face-to-face conversations allow for faster and better communication.

If your texts are getting lengthy or the subject is heavy, suggest you change channels. It is important to determine the best channel for conversation. 

Methods like texting are better for problem-solving because they give you more time to digest the information you have gotten and think about how you want to reply. 

Phone calls or video chat can be more engaging for serious conversations. 

26. Know when to STOP

Don’t send messages when you are very emotional or are under the influence of alcohol. 

In these moments it is better to make Yourself STOP. Put your phone away, tell your girl to take your phone away, or just leave it at home.

It’s never a good idea to discuss heavy and too serious conversations over the phone. 

This will save you from sending messages that you will regret later.

27. Avoid Fighting and Drama 

Try to keep things fun and positive with texts messages, if possible if you have some serious issues that need to be addressed, it might be better to do that face to face.

If you tend to get emotional and lash out on phone, you might end up chasing the guy you are interested in away.

 Sending insults and drama playing out through text messages doesn’t do your relationship any good.

The truth is that when you calm down, you will regret your words and once a text is sent, it is out there for future reference.

If you sense a disagreement is on the horizon, then tell him that you can talk about the subject later and move on to something else.

If you are emotional or angry, try this tip; instead of texting, put your phone away, take a piece of paper, write down everything you wanted to say, now underneath that, write the consequences that will come up if you send that message.

Most likely you will not send that message at all and you will calm down!

28. Flirts the same way you do over text as you do in real life 

What happens in most relationships, in the beginning, is that we have a representative.

Yes, someone can be amazing in texting but when you meet them in person they are shy and aloof.

This is a huge turn-off, so try as much as you can to not catfish. Let your fun personality shine through your texts.

Let texting a guy you are interested in being the same as communicating with him in real life. 


I hope you found the tips above very helpful.

Texting is a great way to communicate with a guy but always strive to ensure that you contact him by meeting up in person.

 If you want to develop a meaningful relationship, you need to learn to keep him interested through text and him getting to see your personality in person. 

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